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The Bachelorette, Episode 9 Recap
This week we find ourselves in the tropical island of Curacao (guess this area needed some help in the tourism department. I mean isn’t that why ABC keep’s picking new places??) We’re down to the final 3 guys:, Sean, Jef and Arie. Emily sheds some moreeye-opening, obvi reasons why she’s falling in love with these guys.
Sean and Emily had an immediate connection. Emily thinks he’s dad potential. He’s muscley and has a teddy bear heart. Sean only wants to get married once, so if it’s the two of them at the end of this, she knows it will work.
Jef is his own person, with his own style and marches to the beat of his own drum. Anyone else hearing “me, me, me”?? Emily continues to mention how she likes guys with a little bit of an edge, which she feels Jef has. Jef brings out Emily’s silly side, he can make anything fun, because he has the potential to make the ordinary task an adventure. The two of them get each other, unlike any relationship she’s had in a really long time.
Arie and Emily hit it off from the first night. Arie’s a thoughtful guy who’s attentive and brings out the best in Emily. It appears she’s actually teary-eyed when talking about Arie, which I’m not sure is from camera editing or if it shows how strong her connection is with him. She says that she knows if they two of them are the ones standing at the end of this, Arie will adore her, and always be there for her, he would be her best friend and truly love her forever.
Emily says the scariest thing at this point in the show is sending the wrong guy home. After everything she’s been through she looks at love a little more realistically, but at the end of the day she’s still a girl who wants to fall in love, like a romantic fairytale.
First date: Sean. Emily says that he’s the only guy who hasn’t told her he loves her yet, which is making it hard for her to really give more of herself to him. Well I think he’s the only smart one because a) you can’t actually be in love yet and b) he knows that there’s a chance he won’t be the last guy standing, so why blurt out those words right away.
Today these two are going to an island of their very own out in the middle of the ocean. Romantic or terrifying? Where they’re just like, going to hang out. Their mode of transportation to said island, a helicopter. Is this the first helicopter of the season? Ben would be disappointed…
Sean clears up with his sister’s told Emily that he was very “buddy-buddy” with his past girlfriends, especially his last girlfriend. He says it’s because at a certain point he knew he loved her, but wasn’t in love with her, so he wasn’t really doing any of the sweet, romantic gestures that he does with Emily. He reiterates that he’s super selective with girls that he dates, but, he says, with Emily it’s different.
Emily is hoping her romantic dinner planned after their snorkeling adventure will be the push Sean needs to tell her he loves her. Pressure much?
Seans’ sorta already told Emily that he loves her, that much she should have picked up on by now. Apparently “I’m crazy for you” is code for I love you in Sean language.
Uh oh. Another letter. But this one’s not to Emily, this one is to Ricki.
Sean says he views love the same way he feels about proposing to someone. If you say you love someone then you should spend the rest of your life with them. And on cue, he finally tells Emily that he’s fallen in love with her. For that he gets to stay with her in her fantasy suite, BUT not all night, Emily is a mommy and she needs to set a good example for Ricki.
As Sean is leaving he says the knows he’s going to marry Emily.
Second date: Jef. Jef says he knows that he 100% loves Emily, but that doesn’t mean he’s going to end up with her, but it’s not over yet, not until he proposes to Emily.
Emily and Jef are spending their date on the water. Emily says that their relationship is in a good place, but she still worries Jef’s family won’t approve of her. Jef tells Emily that his family did in fact love Emily, and his siblings even called Jef’s parents to tell them what great girl Emily is, and that Jef’s parent want to meet Emily if she chooses him.
Jef says he loves parents, I’m good with parents, to which Emily replies, I’m a parent. Jef’s answer, “well cool.” Ha. Ha. Ha. Jef asks Emily if he’ll be a good parent. Emily says yea because you’re fun and because you actually want to be a dad. Jef says that they can make it because they balance each other out: Emily will help get Jef out of trouble and Jef will help Emily get into trouble. Aww. What a match made in heaven.
Jef really pours his heart out to Emily, he says “I want to spend every day with her like it’s our last.” I really do think Jef loves this girl. Maybe it’s fate that the two of them met. Could Emily and Jef be our next Ryan and Trista?? Honest to god, true love, that was found on a reality tv show?
“I’m falling in love with a girl and I still don’t know how I fit in with the other most important thing in her life, her daughter, ” says Jef. Emily does think hewould be the right fit for Ricki and her, that he could fit into their daily lives.
At dinner he asks Emily some tough questions- where will they live, why didn’t it work out with the other guys, who seemed like really good guys. Emily says that unlike some of the other guys, Jef ignites something inside of her that make her feel confident about herself, something she’s not felt with a guy in a while. Jef says the reason he’s still single is because he hasn’t seen the end goal with any of his past relationships, but with Emily he say he does see the final picture.
Emily hands the Jef the fantasy suite card. He turns her down. I think Jef is the first person in all of bachelor history to flat out say, NO I won’t have sex with you on a reality tv show. What a gentleman. Emily’s pissed because she didn’t get to the dumping that night, but she really respects Jef for respecting her and not wanting to be a bad role model to her daughter.
Third date: Arie. Do any of us this it’s a coincidence that Arie’s date was last?
I think we can rate who’s turning Emily on the most based on the kisses she gives/receives from all of the guys, and clearly Arie’s kisses are on fire.
Emily and Jef are going swimming with the dolphins. Which I would have been stocked about, Emily not so much.
Arie says Emily is the love of his life, that he truly feels like she is his best friend, and that it’s hard to even talk when they’re around each other because all they want to do is kiss. And kiss. And kiss. Yup. We get it.
So since all they do is kiss, Emily says during dinner she needs to figure out beside physical chemistry what other types of chemistry they have. She asks Arie what he does on a typical Tuesday. And he says get up at 9, usually. Her response, “oh honey you’re in for a rude awakening.”
Arie too wants to know what their life would be like if they’re the last two standing. Emily tells him wherever you want to go, that’s where will go as long as we’re together. Arie says he’s good with kids and he wants a chance to show Emily how good he can be with Ricki. Since he’s dated a woman with kid, Arie knows a thing or two about how important it is to not be someone’s dad right away, but friends and someone who’s fun to hang out with. The dad stuff comes later.
Arie doesn’t just tell Emily how he feels about her, he shows her too. Oh yes, he definitely has no problem showing her. So, that’s why Emily cannot give Arie the fantasy suite card, because girlfriend knows that she won’t want Arie to keep it in his pants.
Rose ceremony. Hold up. Before we talk about the rose ceremony let’s talk about her attire this evening. wtf is she wearing? She looks like a mermaid. Honey Halloween is in October. Emily is overwhelmed with emotion. She’s let all 3 guys have a special place in her heart and she’s not ready to say goodbye to any of them. She’s said that this is the first rose ceremony where she isn’t sure that she will be sending the right guy home, up until now she’s been happy and confident with her eliminations.
Emily: “It wouldn’t suck if I didn’t have 3 great guys, but I do. I have 3 great guys.”
She knows she’s going to hurt someone, and she knows because all 3 dates were perfect that none of the guys will see it coming. And even though you have to go to through heartbreak to find the person to spend the rest of your life with doesn’t mean it will be easy along the way.
Sean is going home. And at least he does it gracefully. He was SO SURE that he was going to marry her, so for her to not pick him is unfathomable to him. He says it hurts more than he can explain, and I bet it does, because we can clearly see how broken Emily is over saying goodbye to him too.
Next week the men tell all. We’ll get to see all the guys we loved to hate (Ry Ry I’m looking at you!). Will Emily pick Arie or Jef, or just walk away from both of them? How disappointing would that be if she walks away from both guys! I’m still team Jef, but I guess we’ll see if this blond grows a pair, goes with her gut, and let’s one of these men propose to her.
Final thoughts, is Emily’s final episode on Sunday because the ending is so anticlimactic that ABC’s is hoping to boost ratings with the newest season the Bachelor Pad?